There is a grinding nature to everything.
I was paired up to play golf with two younger guys this week. They are on summer break from university.
I overheard them talking about a friend who is in from out of town.
But he’s only here for a short amount of time. And everyone wants a piece of him, including his girlfriend, who has first dibs.
This person they were talking about is “Hansel” from Zoolander. He is either an emerging entrepreneur, a YouTuber, a rockstar or a combination of all three.
In that moment, I realized that my ass is going to be continually kicked in by people half my age.
They will become my boss, and slowly but surely, they will become your boss too.
When you are in your 40s, you must be ready and willing to hand over the keys to the next generation.
This is not a feeling anyone in their late 20s and early 30s can relate to because they are still insecure with their lot in life.
People in these younger age groups drink themselves silly on the weekends as a result of this insecurity.
Most of them don’t even realize that they can just stay home and don’t have to go out to bars that only take their money repeatedly and give nothing in return.
They are sold useless fashions and will even wait in line for pop-ups to buy said fashions, which is a marketing trick in itself to manufacture scarcity (any time you see a line-up for a business that is empty, just remember this statement about the velvet rope).
This is part of the treadmill we find ourselves running on.
You run on a surface that is not moving, even if you feel like you are going at breakneck speed.
It starts with school and it continues into your first proper “jobs”.
Deep family ties keep tabs on you to perform and procreate more variations of the family tartan.
If you thought the world outside was heavy, why don’t you look at how heavy it is inside yourself?
You have had to navigate thousands of years of trauma that natters and chirps in your ear day after day.
And not one of these institutions, like school or work - at least back in my early 20s - gave a f^^k about understanding who you were and what kind of support you needed to navigate this.
The goal of each day is simple: Lower the volume on that radio.
Get in touch with the voice that is inside of you.
The things that you truly want to do.
You don’t need another job. Enough people have jobs. Jobs are fine without you.
Instead, you need a purpose, a mission, a north star or a burning desire to do the things you want to be doing.
You can only do this by giving yourself permission to go off the beaten path.
The more time you spend reading the news and trying to predict everyone’s next move, the less time you have to do everything in the paragraph above.
Your energy disperses.
We are taught to not bottle up our emotions.
That I agree with, but I want you to consider at least clamping down the leaks in the pipes that are causing your energy to fray in multiple directions off course.
How you spend your time is how you spend your life.
And how you do one thing is how you do everything.
In search of the cool, the calm and the collected life of intention.
🥯 🫶 🥯,
Elliott